Friday, June 27, 2008

Love & Marriage

When two people are under the influence of the most violent, most insane, most delusive, and most transient of passions, they are required to swear that they will remain in that excited, abnormal, and exhausting condition until death do them part. ~ G.B. Shaw


California became the second state to perform and recognize same-sex marriage recently.

This had me thinking. If Handsome and I got married in Colorado, and then we decided to move to North Carolina, how surprised would we be if all of a sudden, the North Carolina government did not recognize the fact that we were married?

Ridiculous, no?

I believe that it is fear that motivates state governments to introduce statutes and constitutional bans on same-sex marriage.

In most cases, marriage between two people, regardless of gender, is an expression of love and commitment. It is a sacrament in the church. "Marriage should be honored by all" (Heb. 13:4).

There are plenty of people who are of opposite gender who marry each other for reasons much less noble than love and commitment. Can you say green card?

In a time when nothing is more certain than change, the commitment of two people to one another has become difficult and rare. Yet, by its scarcity, the beauty and value of this exchange have only been enhanced. ~ Robert Sexton


Perhaps I'm one of those people who choose the "carte-blanche" way of my faith. I believe that two people who love each other should not be judged because they may be of the same sex. In fact, I believe I'll let God do the judging for me. People do entirely too much judging of other people, in my opinion.

He knows that if I love someone, that person has affected ME in a positive way. We are all human here. I would rather see my two male friends have the same opportunity to care for each other in all the legal sense of the words, without having to jump through any additional hoops that Handsome and I did not have to, than to see them purposely single, and miserable.

Where is the glory to God in that?

2 comments:

Lynn @tma said...

I honestly don't know what I believe on this issue. For me, it's one of the toughest things to figure out God's will on. I totally understand what you are saying and thank you for your wonderful, loving thoughts on the matter. I always like to hear all sorts of different viewpoints on an issue before I decide (or in this case, decide to not make a decision). I do believe that we shouldn't judge, we should be loving, and we should uplift our neighbors, not bring them down. Thanks for your interesting insights.
-Lynn

artified said...

Have to say I agree with your thoughts on this. I have a gay cousin and friend and both have told me they fell in love with the person, not the persons gender/sexuality etc. So why shouldn't they be able to show their love and commitment to each other legally and have the same legal rights as you and I. Both have been together many years now, and are fortunate enough that we are able to have a civil ceremony. "Same-sex couples are now able to enter into a civil partnership by registering a formal commitment to one another. This gives them legal recognition for their relationship, which means they have almost exactly the same rights and responsibilities as married couples."
thanks again for talking so frankly about such an important matter :)